Autistic Meltdowns

Autistic meltdowns are very intense involuntary responses to being overwhelmed.

Autistic people present differently during meltdowns. Reactions may be physical (e.g. kicking), emotional (e.g. crying) or verbal (e.g. shouting). Alternatively, they may shut down. It is important to know that meltdowns are not tantrums. The individual may temporarily not feel in control of their behaviour.

Common Triggers Include…

• Sensory overload

• Unnoticed hunger or thirst

• Change in plan or routine

• Anxiety

• Exhaustion from masking

• High demands

• Unmet needs

• Being unable to express needs

• Fear of failure

• Feeling unable to meet expectations

• Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

What Could Help You During a Meltdown:

• Finding a quiet space

• Noise cancelling headphones or earplugs

• Having a ‘safe person’ to call or go to who can help you to calm down

• Anything special interest related that you can engage with

• Calming music or meditation

• Weighted blankets

• People around you understanding

What Other People Can Do To Help:

• Guide you somewhere quiet

• Reduce demands as much as possible

• Remove any anxiety triggers

• Offer you time and space

• Validate your emotions

• Speak calmly and reassure you

• Encourage you to ground themselves

• Understand that you may say or do things which you would not usually

After a meltdown it is important to remember that your body has just experienced an intense physical and emotional reaction. Your nervous system has been in overdrive. Adrenaline will be pumping around your body.

You might feel embarrassed or ashamed, but you need to now take care of yourself to avoid burnout. You might do this by:

• Having lots of rest and sleep

• Fuelling your body with food

• Hydrating with water

• Refreshing yourself by splashing water on your face

• Engaging in your special interest

• Identifying the trigger and seeing if you can avoid it next time

• Treating yourself with compassion

Remember: Autistic adults have meltdowns too. They can feel incredibly embarrassing and the shame that hits afterwards can be horrible. But it is not your fault. Your brain went into overdrive and your body tried to protect you.

You are loved.